Emotional Feelings Related To Divorce:
During the process of divorce or once the divorce takes place an individual both the men and the women have many emotional feelings that may have a long term psychological effect on their mind. theses feeling may include:
1. Anger: During all stages of divorce there are intense feelings of anger towards the Ex. The person may feel angry for not being understood, for his/her ex having an affair or just feel angry on the thought that why he/her was left alone.
2. Guilt: There is a feeling of guilt for both the partners whether they have initiated it or not. Feeling guilty on the fact that why one was not able to keep the marriage is a common emotion feeling in divorce.
3. Anxiety: Being anxious and stressful is a mixture of emotions that occur following a divorce. A person may stop taking care of oneself, missing meals and thinking only about the conditions that lead to divorce. It may be associated with sleep disturbances and continuous thoughts about the relationship with the ex.
4. Fear: People may remain terrified after a divorce. There may be fear of unknown or a fear of something worse happening in near future. There is a fear of what people would think and say and an individual might isolate oneself. There are thought of 'what if' disturbing the normal life.
5. Grief: When a marriage breaks up it is natural to grieve over the loss. It can be a very painful experience and going through all the stages of grief as for the death of a loved one may help recover oneself from the loss and the effects of divorce. It may take a long time and may even be a life long process of adjusting to the effects of divorce.
6. Feeling Hopeless: People have many dreams associated with their marriage and when it ends up in divorce all those dreams are shattered . There may be feelings of intense sadness, depression and hopelessness.
7. Feeling Embarrassed: After a divorce people may feel embarrassed and have difficulty going to work and face friends and family members. They may not have answers to questions people may ask and have feeling of being a failure and not bale to keep the marriage.
8 A few positive Feelings: Sometimes a divorce may bring feelings of relief and sense of independency. If the relationship was very stressful it may help a person to get rid of the stress and anxiety that was associated with that marriage. It may help a person to make new plans for the future and even have a chance to marry a more compatible spouse.
Effect On Children:
Divorce has many negative stressful psychological and emotional effect on the children. They suffer from depression, have impaired performance at school and they have feeling of insecurity. Children of different ages may respond differently according to their understandings. Some may start hating the parents and blame them for the separation. The child custody also has a great psychological effect on children. Some teen age children may start drug abuse or teen girls may find herself a new family to live with. Sometime children may even make a completed or an attempted suicide. Some children may blame themselves for the divorce or may try to work out things that can bring their parents together,
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